Cant we fall in love more than once???? A really interesting topic which makes every reader of this blog become more energetic (I know....no body is reading my blogs...and i believe that you are the first person to read this ... :) ) Whenever i tell my friends about my new crush ......immediately they start tossing me with all the comments that... "It is just infatuation" ..... some friends even went to the extent of saying that "I have started becoming a flirt..." But i always wonder..CANT A PERSON FALL IN LOVE MORE THAN ONCE???????Infact to my surprise...when i searched for a catchy phrase for describing about my infatuation....I saw the Thesaursus giving me so many words like passion,fascination,desire, crush,obsession....and importantly LOVE..... :) There is a thin thread that connects all these words together ...that is.....Liking....You may wonder why i am talking about liking here....U will realise it as you read thro my arguements... After all U love the people whom u like...that forms the basic criteria for loving anybody....
To support my arguement....U need to understand the basic point..WHY DO WE GO BEHIND CERTAIN THINGS IN OUR LIFE???? Its all because we like them.....Ok...when u say that u like them...Do u want to say that u like each and every attribute in them??? Or do u say that u like it completely..without disliking few qualities in it??? ....i think i am confusing u...let me explain you with a simple example.....U love vanilla icecreams a lot...there are different attributes that make the icecream like....its chill nature...its vanilla flavor....etc etc....Such qualities really make you feel excited about the Icecreams and u love having them........
I just have a simple question here.....WONT U LOVE ANY OTHER ITEM WHICH HAS THE SAME QUALITIES THAT YOU LIKED????? For example in our case.....If you like Vanilla icecream a lot......then i can say confidently that u will like the vanilla shake also.....Will u say no to this???? So its not that u love only the vanilla icecream.....its very important for you to realise the reason behind ur love for a thing......the qualities that u like in it..which makes u love that particular item.....
In the same way......think about the gal you like.....every one of us would have some idea or dream about the kind of gal we like......U identify certain qualities which u want ur dreamgal to have....for example.....I like my gal to be good looking, broad minded, caring, bold...etc..etc... When i find such a gal in my life....I am bound to fall in love ..because She has all the qualities that i expect...So whats going to stop me.....But sadly...Love is all about two hearts...Even she would be having some idea about her dreamboy and I should match her expectations ..then only i succeed in that love.......Now at this point ....If the gal is not ready to accept meas her BF......then what is my next step???? Am I going to be like a devadas (as they show in most of our regional movies) ????
In the same way......think about the gal you like.....every one of us would have some idea or dream about the kind of gal we like......U identify certain qualities which u want ur dreamgal to have....for example.....I like my gal to be good looking, broad minded, caring, bold...etc..etc... When i find such a gal in my life....I am bound to fall in love ..because She has all the qualities that i expect...So whats going to stop me.....But sadly...Love is all about two hearts...Even she would be having some idea about her dreamboy and I should match her expectations ..then only i succeed in that love.......Now at this point ....If the gal is not ready to accept meas her BF......then what is my next step???? Am I going to be like a devadas (as they show in most of our regional movies) ????I am sure that I have not committed a sin by falling it love.....I know that I still have a long way to go...Infact my every love is a very good learning experience for me :) ...After few days...I find another gal and infact with a simple assumption that she is not married and no BFs too :) ...She is really good looking, caring and she has all the qualities i expect.......And importantly I see an opportunity for me to get into her life......What will I do???? Should i stay quiet or should i go ahead in making my proposal???
I am not going to reply to this question in this blog....as i have answered this question many a times in my life.... which infact makes all my friends angry :)
3 comments:
Hey
I am the first to comment on your blog.
Glad to see that you have entered the World of Blogging. Carry on the good work. I can see that you are in a great mood and spirit for writing blogs (4 blogs in 2 days!). :-)
More than the first three of your blogs, I like the last one with your arguments and justification on why a person cannot fall for a second or consecutive love.
But IMO, if your Love is true, then your heart cannot accept another girl in that place. I know this sounds more like a philosophy, in your terms, a dialogue from a regional movie. :-) But you should feel this ineffable emotion to deeply comprehend my words. There is no attractive strong force / bond in world like Love.
Even I have wondered about the different terms you used for Love - liking, desire, lust etc. But love is the strongest word of all, which does not have a right and equal synonym.
Hence, the answer to your question is.. YES.. You can go after another girl if your first love is kinda not set right. My opinion in previous paras are only about TRUE LOVE. But nowadays you do not find true love. Who is gonna question you on this? This is your life and it is your choice. Choose your destiny. (Hope this opens another love gate in my life too !) :-)
dei, i think ur argument has a logical fallacy.
u describe attributes of an object. and u just look for it in the object. if i extend ur definitions, i can apply to generally any case: dog, medhu vadai etc etc.
as far as affection goes, it is the object that matters, not the attributes. once u realize that, u know what love is. and then u know why falling head over heels happens ;)
hi
well i think anybody can fall in love nay number of times.there s absolutely nothing wrong morally as long as u are not deceiving people.well i certainy dont believe that you can hate the person you love just because things didnt work the right way or he/she didnt repond to you..and we shouldnt be complaining or regretting about that because we have derived joy in caring/pampered by the other person..Just like u told every love is a joyful experience we would need to treasure.It would help us tread in a more careful way..did u ever realise that being in love can help u realise your potential to care for others..and in every consecutive prospective relationship,u love the other person more than the previous one..i think any person who terms themselves socially noraml,moral would be outrageous at our view point..its just that we have made ours views public and not many choose to do it..YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!!
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